Going out alone in Dubai

Rob Garratt realises there are certain social pitfalls in going out alone Comments

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I have a confession: I quite enjoy going to bars alone. My job description at Time Out includes reviewing new eateries and drinkeries every week, and inevitably, thanks to flaky friends and scheduling clashes, some of these visits must be made on one’s own. Luckily, I don’t really mind.

Yet it seems as though I’m in the minority. Mention you’re off to a bar solo and you’re usually met with one of two reactions. Some give you a pitying look before uttering a hurried ‘Yeah, I do that sometimes’, in a tone that suggests they do anything but. Then there are the rest, the right-barrel-of-laughers, who give you a stunned look of disgust and disbelief. ‘You’re doing what?’ they often stammer. ‘On your… own?’

I just don’t get it – I quite enjoy my own company. At the end of a hard day in the office, what could be better than a quiet drink alone with my thoughts? It beats going home to last night’s washing up and my flatmate’s noisy exercise routine.

The only problem with my favourite pastime is that one often encounters the same scepticism when you arrive at a bar or restaurant. There are staff who condescendingly lean over my table, asking, ‘Will anyone be joining you, sir?’ No – and I don’t pay for this kind of spiky reception, thank you very much.

Then there are the quizzical fellow patrons who seem to think that just because you’re drinking or dining alone, it’s acceptable to stare uncomprehendingly at you, as if you’re some kind of circus freak.

The key to enjoying these solo soirées, I’ve learned, is to look busy. Sports bars are a revelation: a lone gent is camouflaged in the hop-supping crowd, while the transfixed masses are too distracted by the glare of the game to notice – or care. But one can’t (or rather shouldn’t) live on burgers alone, so when I visit other venues I always carry an industrial-strength shield: a novel to wield in the world’s face. I’ve wasted hours of my life trotting up and down The Walk looking for a bar with enough light to read by (tip: high corner tables by the door in Rosso). I’ve also perfected the writing-a-very-long-text act, and the ponderous working-on-my-screenplay poise (don’t worry, I’m not).

You may be silently sniggering at the great efforts I make simply to enjoy a drink alone. Call me a lonely old man if you like; I call myself self-sufficient. It’s not me who’s the eccentric oddball, it’s clearly the vast mass of everyone else who is out of touch with the world.

Rob Garratt is our Music & Nightlife editor. He does occasionally go out with other people as well. Honest…

By Rob Garratt
Time Out Dubai,

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Posted by: Shadi on 25 Jun ' 12 at 13:13

Edited by TimeOutDubai.com

Classic.... =) I've got a friend a particular German friend (I'm sure she knows herself as soon as she reads this) who would completely agree with you Rob... And quite honestly, me being the Arab, always gave her the look of disbelief and said "Really, on your own !" and "You actually want to...?!" =) do what you enjoy I guess Regards

Posted by: Peter on 26 May ' 12 at 16:23

Edited by TimeOutDubai.com

I'm with you on this one, Rob. While it is nice to share a few beers with friends, an evening with your own company can make a most enjoyable change. It lets you marshall your thoughts for the next day's onslaught, gives a great opportunity for people watching and one of the best things is you can go to any venue, arrive and leave when you like without having to consider anyone else's preferences. Actually there are a load of unaccompanied barflies out there, so if you want to strike up a conversation there is ample opportunity for that too. I have met NASA scientists, agricutlure experts, insane military personnel in addition to the hordes of mind numbing bores you can meet in any pub in the known universe. I agree, it's the rest who are out of step.

Posted by: sohail on 24 May ' 12 at 04:30

Hey Rob,
truely agree i would not dare enter alone a pub , the same goes for a movie theatre as well, when u walk out u get that strange look from people...

but ya i have been to cafes and coffee houses where u r not troulble cathing a book or a magazine... malls r too loud for me ... but ya lemm eknow who do i =write to in terms of new places to visit ,

as i am in sales and get lottsa leads on new business opening in the uae


brgds
Sohail

Posted by: Barok on 22 May ' 12 at 10:13

Edited by TimeOutDubai.com

Nice one Rob. I too goes out once awhile - alone. Your observation is our experience - same same. Illustration gave me an idea ,next time I will wear hoody. just to let u know, I'm posting your piece on my fb.

Posted by: Shivani on 22 May ' 12 at 07:29

Loved this article ....very well described loners situation and various ways to engage yourself as a time out all alone .....
Cheers

Posted by: Ahmed on 21 May ' 12 at 11:29

Totally loved the article, though that what happens when you are in a 3rd world country, I went out alone in various places in Nourth America, Europe and Austrailia. Never got a tiny little reaction like the one in Dubai when I go out Drinking/Dining alone.

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